The Lord of the Rings
The long awaited and much nagged about picture of the engagement ring. The plain silver band is the one he wears to show he is in a committed relationship.
The kids are away visiting their dad, so we have way too much time on our hands, and believe me, we use every second! :o)
It's nice to just be able to relax around someone, even the paranoia about my guy-friends has simmered down. I can honestly say that I'd probably be just as bad if he had girlie buddies, but lucky for me he doesn't, so I can say that I wouldn't have minded if he did without that really becoming an issue.
I am starting to get used to the idea of being engaged. It doesn't freak me out as much when he talks about the wedding either. . . we still don't have a date and that is ALL my doing, but at least I don't break out in cold sweat at the mention of the words 'decorations', 'venue', 'ceremony' and 'flowers'. The 'ever after' and 'life-long commitment' are still works in progress.
Also, none of the parental units have been informed yet, but since we've seen both sets and I KNOW both mom's have noticed the rings and not said anything, doesn't make it any less official. My sister knows, so I have no doubt that my mom knows and that she is just pleading ignorance. Hopefully one or both of the mom's will make a comment before the wedding otherwise they will just get invites to the wedding and I'm sure that will not go down well.
It was all my doing (again) that they were not made part of the decision. I figured since we are both in our thirties, we don't have to ask permission from anyone to do this, except the kids and we have their blessing.
Sorting out the totem pole and pecking order in the house has been interesting. I am so used to just doing what I want, it's been weird having to ask for someone else's opinion and to check in before accepting an invitation to dinner. Strange how we fall into the habit of just bulldozing on without considering what the other person wants. Have to admit that things are a lot better now, instead of fighting EVERY day, we are now down to just 2 or so days a week. ;o) The rest of the time we actually have FUN!!!
See, even the most cynical amoungst us have a little bit of faith in love hidden under all the bitterness we tend to use as a shield.
The kids are away visiting their dad, so we have way too much time on our hands, and believe me, we use every second! :o)It's nice to just be able to relax around someone, even the paranoia about my guy-friends has simmered down. I can honestly say that I'd probably be just as bad if he had girlie buddies, but lucky for me he doesn't, so I can say that I wouldn't have minded if he did without that really becoming an issue.
I am starting to get used to the idea of being engaged. It doesn't freak me out as much when he talks about the wedding either. . . we still don't have a date and that is ALL my doing, but at least I don't break out in cold sweat at the mention of the words 'decorations', 'venue', 'ceremony' and 'flowers'. The 'ever after' and 'life-long commitment' are still works in progress.
Also, none of the parental units have been informed yet, but since we've seen both sets and I KNOW both mom's have noticed the rings and not said anything, doesn't make it any less official. My sister knows, so I have no doubt that my mom knows and that she is just pleading ignorance. Hopefully one or both of the mom's will make a comment before the wedding otherwise they will just get invites to the wedding and I'm sure that will not go down well.
It was all my doing (again) that they were not made part of the decision. I figured since we are both in our thirties, we don't have to ask permission from anyone to do this, except the kids and we have their blessing.
Sorting out the totem pole and pecking order in the house has been interesting. I am so used to just doing what I want, it's been weird having to ask for someone else's opinion and to check in before accepting an invitation to dinner. Strange how we fall into the habit of just bulldozing on without considering what the other person wants. Have to admit that things are a lot better now, instead of fighting EVERY day, we are now down to just 2 or so days a week. ;o) The rest of the time we actually have FUN!!!
See, even the most cynical amoungst us have a little bit of faith in love hidden under all the bitterness we tend to use as a shield.
posted by HappyTheClam @ 10:22 AM
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